Sunday, May 25, 2008

It's no secret

One thing I can't stand is control freaks. Even as a child, I had authority issues. If you tell me what to do, I will most likely do the opposite.

Yes, my claims to dictatorship ARE ironic, that's the point.

When someone I don't know much about tries to push around someone I love, I bristle up like a scared cat and want to yell, "Don't tell her what to do. You are not her boss."

It's a good thing I haven't been in Moscow. I might have made a situation that turned out for the best into a bigger clusterfuck than it needed to be.

The hardest part for me is telling people to stand up for themselves. I can get all bossy trying to convince others not to take any shit from anyone. It's like an overbearing parent telling a child not to give in to peer pressure. Don't give in. Don't do it. It makes me feel like a hypocrite when I order another person not to be a puppet to outside forces.

The good news is that the need in some people to feel powerful is so great that they cave and run away when confronted with their shortcomings.

It's the way of most dictators and bullies. They aren't used to having their shortcomings forced in front of their faces. Instead of taking a long look and changing, they turn tail and run.

I'm glad they do. It makes easier for people like me to take over.

2 comments:

sapphireroze said...

that's why sometimes it's nice for people like you to tell people like me to stand up for ourselves. and then teach us the right way to do it. and be there supporting us in the situation.

you're caring and it's different if you tell someone what to do to help herself instead of telling her what to do to take advantage of her or get her in a bad spot.

-M. said...

"I'll stop telling people what to do, just like you asked me to."
-They Might be Giants.